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Women in divorce need to understand division of marital assets

Michelle Cortes-Harkins
MSW, CDFA™, CRPC®
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How to survive divorce and still get what you and your family need

Pegotty Cooper
President and Founder of the CDC Certified Divorce Coach Training Program
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Life after divorce: How to rebuild your self-esteem and confidence

Nicky Rolland
Spiritual Teacher and Author
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My way or the highway is a road to nowhere in divorce

Pegotty Cooper
President and Founder of the CDC Certified Divorce Coach Training Program
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Keep a level head and productive dialogue with your soon to be ex

Nicky Rolland
Spiritual Teacher and Author
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Advice and help when your husband has cheated on you

Brenda B. Shapiro
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Surviving Divorce

Various studies on the American divorce rate reflect that approximately 40 to 50 percent of today's marriages end in divorce. This means that about one out of every two marriages end.Divorce has become so common that people underestimate how difficult the experience can be. But the bottom line is that no matter who initiates the divorce, it's never easy.ExpertBeacon's experts can help you weather the challenges, one step at a time. We help you navigate issues of child support; retaining a lawyer; entering into mediation; dividing property and assets; managing the loneliness, pain and grief; taking control of the divorce; seeking professional counseling; thinking strategically and financing the divorce. Our goal is to help you survive the divorce and successfully move on to the next chapter of your life.

Reduce the stress of divorce by being cooperative and rational

A divorce is many things emotional, familial, and financial. Likely, issues from those topic areas were going on during marriage too. To get through the process of the actual dissolution of the marriage agreement, try to keep in mind that at this stage, divorce is really just breaking the contract. At this point, all debts and all assets are to be equally divided, and if there are children, custody arrangements are key.

Kelly WalshOwner

Kelly Walsh, M.Ed, ACC is the president of 1 Smart Life. Over the past 18 years, Kelly has successfully coached business leaders and people from all walks of life to reach their highest potential. With a Master’s in counseling, professional coac...

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Women in divorce need to understand division of marital assets

The divorce process comes with many moving parts, all of which can be overwhelming, particularly if you have substantial assets that need to be divided. In order to gain some control over the process, spend the time needed to really understand your financial situation and make sure you know your rights before you enter into the settlement process. You are your own best advocate.

Michelle Cortes-HarkinsMSW, CDFA™, CRPC®

The focus of my practice is on women in transition; women who are changing employment, entering into motherhood, going through a divorce, widowhood or preparing for or starting retirement. I use tools from my social work background, such as a...

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Life after divorce: How to rebuild your self-esteem and confidence

With divorce often comes a feeling of shame, low confidence and low self worth - as if people who get divorced have done something wrong, or failed somehow. It’s only natural to perhaps feel scared at finding yourself single again. You may feel alone, isolated, and surprised by who has turned their back on you. This is normal. However, it needn’t be this way. Self confidence and self worth have everything to do with having a strong inner core. Often times, outer success can hide a weak core, but without a strong core true happiness is not sustainable long term.

Nicky RollandSpiritual Teacher and Author

Nicky Rolland is a spiritual teacher and author. At Mid life, she completed her medicine wheel training with the Four Winds Society, and studied directly with international Shaman Alberto Villoldo. She gave various workshops to adults and ch...

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My way or the highway is a road to nowhere in divorce

Pegotty Cooper President and Founder of the CDC Certified Divorce Coach Training Program Divorce Coaching Inc.

She says: I keep telling my spouse what the best solution is for me and the kids and he refuses to even look at or discuss what I think is a perfectly logical solution. He just keeps saying no without any explanation, and then he folds his arms and goes silent.
He says: She accuses me of digging in my heels and being obstinate – refusing to meet to discuss any further perspectives on this subject. And when I say no, let’s talk about another solution, she doesn’t show up at meetings; and fails to deliver the information that my attorney has asked for.

Pegotty CooperPresident and Founder of the CDC Certified Divorce Coach Training Program

Pegotty Cooper, CDC®, MBA, is the co-founder of the CDC Certified Divorce Coach Program®. A Coach Training Alliance graduate, Pegotty and her husband Randy Cooper, a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator, Certified Financial Coach™, CF...

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Advice and help when your husband has cheated on you

Cheating partners are not partners. This is the most important thing to remember. Once that trust has been broken, and abused, one of you is no longer committed to the relationship. It is also important to remember that the implications of cheating are not limited to just mothers. Regardless of whether there are children to be considered or not, there is no difference between a woman who is suffering a cheating husband and a mother who is suffering a cheating father. Cheating affects all women, regardless of marital status, age, race, or sexual orientation.

Brenda B. ShapiroManaging Partner

Brenda B. Shapiro is a Family Law attorney and litigator. She provides legal counsel to clients on family law matters, including prenuptial and postnuptial agreements, divorce, child custody, access and time sharing, post-dissolution, domestic v...

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You win when you remain civil with your ex during the divorce

Divorce is emotional and stressful. It is easy to become overwhelmed by emotion and wind up threatening your soon to be ex with going to court. While some things may need to be resolved by a judge, arguments and threats rarely help the process, and many things can be worked out if cooler heads prevail. Here is some advice for keeping the process civil.

Lori BarkusFamily Law Attorney

South Florida Family Law Attorney Lori Barkus has 15 years of legal experience. She is a Florida Supreme Court Certified Circuit Civil and Family Law mediator, guardian ad litem and is trained in Collaborative Family Law. She handles matters ...

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Divorcing your sugar daddy: a zero-calorie drama-free action plan

Miyoko Hikiji Author, “All I Could Be: My Story as a Woman Warrior in Iraq”

“You should have seen this coming,” your mother says shaking her head when you break the bad news to her that you’re divorcing your sugar daddy. “What are you gonna do now?” she adds. Before she tags on “I saw this coming a mile away,” share with her your well thought out plan.

Miyoko HikijiAuthor, “All I Could Be: My Story as a Woman Warrior in Iraq”

Army veteran (1995-2004) and soldier at heart for life (I'm aiming for centenarian). Member of the first National Women Veterans Speakers Bureau (www.WomenVetsSpeak.com) and Spokeswoman for the Military Sexual Trauma (MST) Initiative with the V...

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Expert advice when your spouse surprises you with divorce

If your spouse has told you that they want a divorce, there are a lot of emotions you might go through, including anger, sadness, and confusion. However, if you are completely blindsided by this proclamation, then a lack of communication is likely the cause, and clearly you and your spouse are on different pages. Going through a divorce is difficult enough when both parties are in agreement. However, when one is unaware, it is much worse to navigate through.

Brenda B. ShapiroManaging Partner

Brenda B. Shapiro is a Family Law attorney and litigator. She provides legal counsel to clients on family law matters, including prenuptial and postnuptial agreements, divorce, child custody, access and time sharing, post-dissolution, domestic v...

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Take the right steps to help yourself and reduce stress during divorce

Divorce is known to be one of the top five stressors that a person can experience during life. Not only can it affect many areas of your life--such as money, living circumstances and children--but it also can bring about very difficult emotions. Coping with divorce involves an emotional process similar to experiencing the death of a loved one. Feelings such as shock, denial, anger, guilt and depression are common. Taking steps to help yourself and utilizing effective coping skills can bring you to a level of acceptance and peace.

Julie Cox, LCSWPsychotherapist

Cox received her master’s degree in social work from Fordham University in 2001. She has been practicing as a psychotherapist for the past 12 years. When she began her private practice 10 years ago, her goal is the same as it is today: To provi...

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Have a healthy and successful pregnancy while getting a divorce

When you envisioned adding to your family, you most likely did not envision doing it on your own. Read on to find out what you need to know if you are pregnant and facing a divorce.

Crystal Clancy, MA LMFTClinical Director, Co-Director

Crystal Clancy is a married mother of two. She experienced postpartum depression following the birth of her second child. She helped found Pregnancy and Postpartum Support MN, a non-profit organization that connects new and expectant parents wit...

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How to make a trial separation work and not always end in divorce

A trial separation is a lot different that divorce, though the idea of it can still be very difficult and worrisome for the spouse not wanting to separate. Living apart while maintaining your marital status can give you and your partner some space to evaluate your problems objectively. On top of that, it will allow you to understand the financial and emotional implications that a divorce will bring, but giving you the option to reverse your decision if it doesn’t work out.

Debra BlockCertified Divorce Coach

Deb Block uses the insight and knowledge she has gained from her own divorce and from her years of divorce coaching to provide comfort, guidance, and a sounding board for women and men going through divorce. Deb grew up in Pennsylvania and mo...

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How to survive divorce and still get what you and your family need

Pegotty Cooper President and Founder of the CDC Certified Divorce Coach Training Program Divorce Coaching Inc.

Divorce can grind you down and take away the will to go on! And the higher the emotions, the more energy is required. Over time, you may get so worn down by the process that you want to relieve the immediate pain of conflict or stonewalling or the other demanding their way. You may decide that it just isn’t worth the effort! Stop - before you make this decision you want to weigh carefully what you are willing to give up in your future for the immediate relief right now.

Pegotty CooperPresident and Founder of the CDC Certified Divorce Coach Training Program

Pegotty Cooper, CDC®, MBA, is the co-founder of the CDC Certified Divorce Coach Program®. A Coach Training Alliance graduate, Pegotty and her husband Randy Cooper, a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator, Certified Financial Coach™, CF...

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Stand your ground and get what you want out of the divorce

Many people think of the outcome of divorce as a win or lose proposition. The reality is that whether you settle out of court or go in front of a judge, everything is divided, although not always in the way that either side wanted. While no one gets 100 percent of what they want in a divorce, with reasonable expectations, you may be able to get most of what you want and nearly all of what you need.

Lori BarkusFamily Law Attorney

South Florida Family Law Attorney Lori Barkus has 15 years of legal experience. She is a Florida Supreme Court Certified Circuit Civil and Family Law mediator, guardian ad litem and is trained in Collaborative Family Law. She handles matters ...

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Keep a level head and productive dialogue with your soon to be ex

Going through a divorce can be challenging, and for many of you, perhaps one of the most trying periods in your life. It can be a time when normally loving, kind, upstanding people suddenly act in uncharacteristic cruel, selfish, vindictive ways. When this happens - effective communication is obviously difficult. Here is some spiritual advice to help you stay connected to your loving self so you can successfully and effectively navigate the often turbulent waters during your divorce.

Nicky RollandSpiritual Teacher and Author

Nicky Rolland is a spiritual teacher and author. At Mid life, she completed her medicine wheel training with the Four Winds Society, and studied directly with international Shaman Alberto Villoldo. She gave various workshops to adults and ch...

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What to do if you disagree when dividing assets during a divorce

Dividing assets is one of the most important components in a divorce. The key is to divide everything fairly, which, in some instances, is not always equal. At the same time, the bigger, long-term items should not be overlooked.

Lori BarkusFamily Law Attorney

South Florida Family Law Attorney Lori Barkus has 15 years of legal experience. She is a Florida Supreme Court Certified Circuit Civil and Family Law mediator, guardian ad litem and is trained in Collaborative Family Law. She handles matters ...

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Get a divorce coach to help and support you in your divorce

Pegotty Cooper President and Founder of the CDC Certified Divorce Coach Training Program Divorce Coaching Inc.

Hiring a divorce coach means having your own sounding board and thinking partner who supports you through the rough spots in your divorce; works with you to clarify what is most important for you and your family as an outcome of the process; and helps you lay the foundations for transitioning to your new roles in the next chapter.

Pegotty CooperPresident and Founder of the CDC Certified Divorce Coach Training Program

Pegotty Cooper, CDC®, MBA, is the co-founder of the CDC Certified Divorce Coach Program®. A Coach Training Alliance graduate, Pegotty and her husband Randy Cooper, a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator, Certified Financial Coach™, CF...

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Rebuild your self-confidence and self-worth after divorce

Susan Picosa Author, Sex & Relationship Expert and Divorcee Susan’s Bedtime Stories

After you get a divorce, you can feel like you have lost your self-esteem and self-worth. These types of feelings will pass, but you have to ensure that you take the right steps to understand what it is to be a single, independent, sensually and sexually fabulous woman. To help you along the way, be sure to surround yourself with people who will support and love you in your new journey. The value you put on yourself is up to you. Here is some expert advice to help.

Susan PicosaAuthor, Sex & Relationship Expert and Divorcee

Susan Picosa describes herself as an author, artist and fashion designer, who learned to Tweet and Hashtag successfully, as well as continuing to live life as a sensual, sexual, educated free spirit with a whole lot of life experience to impart ...

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Move beyond dependence-like behaviours to help heal from heartbreak

All of us experience disappointment in life. Sometimes it is profound disappointment and sorrow about issues or people that are dear to our hearts. Yet, encoded into each life experience is a choice. We can choose how we respond, how much meaning to assign to the experience, and we can choose from multiple interpretations of how this relates to us on a personal level.

Ester NicholsonSoul Recovery

Healing comes from looking in the mirror and facing the truth. Twenty-five years ago, when Ester Nicholson looked in the mirror, she saw a broken young woman—a teenaged mom hopelessly addicted to crack, food, abusive relationships, anything t...

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Successfully move on and start over after the divorce is final

Starting over after a divorce is one of the hardest things that a person will have to do. Here is some simple advice to get your life back after a divorce.

Shanae HallAuthor, Radio & TV Personality

Shanae Hall is an author, TV & Radio Personality and a Mother. She wrote the Award nominated response to Steve Harvey’s Best Seller “Why Do I Have To Think Like A Man”, and is currently promoting her second book “For Single Ladies Only.” Shanae ...

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