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Express your love on Valentine's Day without spending money

It’s easy to get stumped about what to do to express yourself for Valentine's Day. Many people express anxiety about the love day.

Don't focus on what others’ are going to do or buy to show their honey that they are special. Instead, think of it as an occasion to honor your love, and to convey how much you value, respect, and admire him or her. With that as your goal, celebrating this holiday is actually very easy, and it won't cost you a penny.

Here are some tips to make this a wonderful Valentine’s Day for you and your loved one.


Do write down what you appreciate

Write a list of qualities that you appreciate about your loved one, and put those words in a card, poem, or a short video of you reading the list. This can be characteristics they possess or things they have done. Include both specific and general examples.

Do share your favorite memories aloud

Write a list of six or so of your favorite, most stellar shared memories and retell the events and why they are significant for you.

Do be a genie and grant a wish

Put yourself in your partner’s shoes and offer to take on a chore or an activity that would bring a smile or relieve some stress and strain. Do it in a timely manner with a smile on your face.

Do fall in love again

Allow yourself to fall in love anew. Conjure up feelings of a time you were full of love for your Valentine, and keep your focus there in your heart. Give up the mental score-keeping of your differences and interrupt all your complaints. Recall the way you felt when you first met.


Do not hold on to the past

Valentine's Day is a great day to let go of any grudges you're holding and to accept your loved one, flaws and all. To do this, repeat over and over to yourself, "My partner is the way he is, not the way I want him to be." Or, "My partner did what she did." We both did the best we could at the time." Stating these truths to yourself with conviction will help you be able to let go of the past and genuinely say and mean, "I love you.”

Do not be afraid to step out of the box and do something different

Take the evening off from your normal routine and do something that steps out of your usual routine, like dancing in your backyard or reading a poem aloud in front of the fireplace. Maybe plan an outing to a favorite place, maybe a hike or a stroll to a new destination.

Do not be afraid to talk and/or listen

Set up a comfortable place to talk, and ask questions about life, dreams, wishes, and feelings. Just listen while he or she talks. Don't interrupt. Remind him or her that you won't share this information with anyone.

Do not forget to embrace the spirit of the day

Refrain from making negative jokes about Valentine's Day or your partner's opinion about the day. Regardless of how you feel, only say positive things genuinely. It’s just one day.

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Valentine’s Day isn’t all about expensive gifts and flowers. Sometimes what your partner really needs is genuine love, kind and truthful words, and quality time with one another. It is truly a time to honor the love you have with one another. Open the lines of communication with your loved one and make this Valentine’s Day all about love.

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Jude Bijou MA MFTPsychotherapist and Award-winning Author

Jude Bijou MA MFT is a respected psychotherapist, professional educator, and workshop leader. Her theory of Attitude Reconstruction® evolved over the course of more than 30 years working with clients as a licensed marriage and family therapist. ...

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