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Helpful attitude adjustments that will help you stay young

According to scientists, happiness enhances longevity. Many wise teachers agree - the age-old secret to staying young, feeling good, and overcoming health issues is to have a positive attitude. If your initial reaction is, "That ain't me!" then think again. Many people have learned to reconstruct their attitude so they can add years of enjoyment to their life. It beats the alternative.

Here are ten attitude adjusters that should help keep you young for a very long time by increasing your happiness levels.


Do turn emotions into motions

If you feel angry, go to a safe place and move the energy out of you by hitting, stomping, or yelling. If you feel sad or victimized, allow yourself to cry until you feel relieved. When you are anxious, worried, or panicked, act it out by making yourself shiver, quiver, tremble, or shudder. Express all your emotions physically and constructively.

Do accept what is

If you want to get into a fight, stop and say, "People and situations are the way they are, not the way I want them to be." After accepting what is, you can get an unbiased view of what's really wrong, if anything, and look within for guidance and insight. Then you will be able to speak up and take action with confidence. If that doesn't work, perhaps it's time to "get over it."

Do rest and press reset

Remember to rest. When you let your body and brain come to a complete stop, this integrates your experiences and gets you back into balance again. Sometimes we need to take a hike in the mountains or a walk on the beach before we can really rest. Some need to meditate, while others will need to take a short nap. Taking time for your brain to rest and reset will contribute to your overall happiness.

Do pursue your dreams

Start today pursuing some of the things you've always dreamed of doing. You never know what tomorrow will bring, so travel, take courses, or learn a new skill or hobby.

Do be helpful to others

It is hard to feel joyful while wrapped up in your own problems. If you want to feel love in your life, try giving to others selflessly. You'll feel better. Getting involved in a cause (other than yourself) is good for your heart and connects you to your world.


Do not argue, but communicate

Use the Four Rules of Good Communication:

  1. Use "I" statements, to express your feelings without blaming others for them.
  2. Be specific, avoiding "always" or "never."
  3. Focus on kindness, not anger.
  4. You are only half the conversation, so truly listen at least 50% of the time.

Do not have negative thinking

Praise! Appreciate! Be joyful. Look for what's good before you leap into a rant about what's bad. Be grateful! Studies show that gratitude measurably increases your psychological and physical well-being.

Do not forget the "Three Ultimate Attitudes”

Any time you start to feel negative or out of balance, align your thoughts, words, and deeds with these three Ultimate Attitudes:

  1. Honor and love yourself
  2. Accept other people and situations
  3. Stay present and specific

In a few minutes, you'll feel great.

Do not sit around - get moving

We humans were built for motion--not just from the bed to the couch to the computer, but real action. Walking, exercising, and getting involved in team sports are all good for our muscles, organs, bones, and minds. Recent studies show that too much sitting can shorten your life as much as smoking. So get moving!

Do not forget to laugh

Life is funny. It is full of wonderful surprises, and yet we often see these as disruptions and inconveniences. We can laugh about them, cry about them, or ignore them. Research shows that laughing not only releases stress, it lifts our spirits, and connects us with other people.

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Being happy isn’t always easy. Sometimes it takes a little bit of perspective, patience, and attitude adjustment to help ease your worries and increase happiness in your life. By staying active and learning to control negative emotions and thoughts, you can live out the rest of your life on a good note. You might as well enjoy the years you have left, whether you are young and able or not.

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Jude Bijou MA MFTPsychotherapist and Award-winning Author

Jude Bijou MA MFT is a respected psychotherapist, professional educator, and workshop leader. Her theory of Attitude Reconstruction® evolved over the course of more than 30 years working with clients as a licensed marriage and family therapist. ...

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