Minimize the holiday blues for seniors suffering from depression
While the holiday season can be a time of added stress for many of us, the elderly population is at an increased risk for depression during the holidays. You may notice a change in your loved one's mood or you may notice a decline in their physical activity. They may show symptoms of fatigue or sadness–and have no interest in the holiday or in their surroundings. Additionally, they might not have the same level of excitement and anticipation that they had when they were younger.
It is not the actual holiday that causes this depression, but the fact that holidays tend to bring up memories of earlier, happier times. During the holidays, older adults tend to feel the passing of time, as well as the absence of parents, siblings and friends who have died, and the distance of loved ones who have moved away. Traditional reunions and rituals that were observed in the past may not be possible, and in their absence, the holidays may seem devoid of meaning. There are several things you can do to help your elderly loved one through this difficult time.
Do
- spend time a great deal of time with your elderly loved one
- involve aging parents in a range of activities
- create new traditions and memories
- minimize overwhelming situations
- encourage seniors to limit their alcohol
Don't
- overlook the need to seek help
- ignore the problems
- make every decision
- forget to listen
- underestimate the power of physical affection
Do spend time a great deal of time with your elderly loved one
Visit loved ones as much as possible during the holiday season. If you are unable to visit, telephone them frequently.
Do involve aging parents in a range of activities
Involve your elderly loved ones in as many holiday preparations as possible. Older adults with physical limitations can be included in kitchen activities by asking them to do a simple task, such as peeling vegetables, folding napkins or arranging flowers. With assistance, they can wrap presents, help create shopping lists and write Christmas cards.
Do create new traditions and memories
Seniors need many things to anticipate. Create new traditions in which they are easily able to participate, such as taking a drive to look at holiday decorations and lights, window-shopping at the mall, enjoying a pedicure or watching a special holiday show.
Do minimize overwhelming situations
Large groups of people are sometimes overwhelming and tiring for the elderly. Whenever possible, plan activities with small groups of people. When making plans, take into account your loved one’s need to rest often or take afternoon naps.
Do encourage seniors to limit their alcohol
Because alcohol is a depressant, it can make your loved one feel even worse. Consequently, it is advisable to offer non-alcoholic options at all times.
Do not overlook the need to seek help
It is very important to encourage your elderly loved one to seek help. Assist them in finding appropriate services to manage their depression, sadness and fatigue.
Do not ignore the problems
Do not pretend your loved one’s problems do not exist. Sometimes, the most difficult role in helping individuals who are depressed or blue is finding an approach that does not contribute to their feelings of defensiveness, sadness, or helplessness. Be sure to acknowledge that the holidays can be difficult for everyone. Talk about your own struggles or sadness.
Do not make every decision
As much as possible, allow seniors to have input in the decision-making process. Ask them to help make decisions about what they want to do for the holidays and where they want to celebrate.
Do not forget to listen
When visiting your loved one, do not forget to listen. It is common for visitors to end up doing most of the talking during a visit. This tends to happen because they feel uncomfortable or may be in a rush to get many other things done that day. But be sure to take the time to really listen. This is one of the most generous gifts you can offer an elderly person. Truly listening helps individuals feel appreciated, valued, and loved.
Do not underestimate the power of physical affection
Hugs, holding hands and other physical gestures of affection have the potential to ease our minds. These acts of affection make us feel less isolated, as well as reducing stress and anxiety.
Summary
As a caregiver or family member of a depressed older person, make it your responsibility to get involved. You can make a significant difference and remove or lessen the holiday blues for seniors suffering from depression.
