Does good kisser mean good in bed?
As a passionate gamer who creates adult gaming guides, I‘m often asked – does being a skilled kisser automatically make you good between the sheets? The connection seems obvious enough. Good kissers tend to be comfortable with intimacy and attentive to their partner‘s needs. Shouldn‘t those same skills translate into the bedroom?
According to a survey by 50 Shades of Kissing, there is a strong correlation:
87% of respondents said a good kisser probably or definitely also excels sexually.
So while the ability to smooch well bodes favourably in the passion department, it isn‘t the whole story…
What Crossover Skills Make Both Good Kissers and Good Lovers?
Through years of hands-on spreedrunning and testing games of all ratings, I‘ve identified some key crossover talents:
Attentiveness – Good kissers focus completely on reading cues and reactions to turn up the heat. Good lovers tune into verbal and nonverbal signals to discover what thrills their partner. My most mindblowing encounters have been with attentive creative types who live for pushing the pleasure envelope.
Uninhibited Confidence – Being confident enough to initiate deep kissing without hesitation or embarrassment is sexy. That same self-assurance to communicate desires and explore new territories leads to better sex. Shy, tentative partners who seem unsure with kissing are rarely tigresses in the sheet.
Creativity – The best kissers mix things up with flicks, nibbles, and caresses that surprise and tantalize. Imaginative lovers do the same by introducing toys, games, positions, dirty talk and roleplay. They have an arsenal of arousal strategies up their sleeve. And aren‘t afraid to use them!
According to Sara*, a 30-year old gamer friend of mine, "A guy who kisses me with artful enthusiasm, like he craves the taste of my lips? Nine times out of ten that fires up the imagination for what else he might do with such gusto."
Key Crossover Skills from Kissing to Sex
| Kissing | Sex |
|---|---|
| Attentiveness | Attentiveness |
| Confidence | Confidence |
| Creativity | Creativity |
What Else Makes Someone Good in Bed?
However, as hot as it looks on paper, a checklist of transferable talents doesn‘t seal the deal or guarantee orgasmic bliss. Plenty of competent kissers fumble at the prospect of talking openly about desires or shedding inhibitions that hold back next-level sex.
Here are other essential bedroom skills beyond being able to deliver toe-curling kisses:
- Enthusiasm – Eagerly enjoying giving pleasure can trump advanced technical skills
- Vulnerability – Letting your guard down emotionally brings you closer together
- Sexual Confidence – Willingness to initiate, experiment, be adventurous
- Communication – Talking honestly about desires, preferences and boundaries
Sultry sci-fi novelist Erica* confided:
"An awkward kisser can absolutely rock my world if he asks what I want then focuses completely on helping me achieve that fantasy. On the flip side, I had a boyfriend who was orally gifted in all departments…yet struggled to open up about his deepest kinks, so sex got predictable."
The Hot Takeaway
So while shared skill sets may up the odds, kissing prowess isn‘t a crystal ball. The ultimate hotness happens when pairs chat freely, tune into each other and explore new sensual paths – whether that‘s through kissing, roleplaying games or toy play. This builds the comfort and chemistry that seperates the mediocre from the magical in bed.
And remember lovers, the best way to learn what your partner craves between the sheets? Pay attention to those delightful nonverbal clues he or she gives you when you kiss deeply. Let their sighs, pulses and whimpers guide your next move. Then watch the fireworks fly.
Game on!
*Names changed to protect the naughty
