How to be happy and single on Valentine’s Day
Many people start to feel lonely just anticipating Valentine's Day – a holiday that celebrates all our romance fantasies. If you are single, in a great relationship, or getting over someone this Valentine’s Day, you can be happy. Many people find the great loves of their lives later in life, and wallowing in pain while you secretly resent your co-workers happy grins won’t serve any purpose at all.
Therefore, if you are in a relationship or not, let’s change it up on Valentine’s Day and learn to love ourselves.
Do
- make a list of five things you have to be grateful for
- write down what you want
- put yourself first
- send yourself something special
- hang out with your close single friends
Don't
- forget how amazing you are
- forget about karma
- compare yourself to anyone else
- forget the people who love you
- sit at home and sulk
Do make a list of five things you have to be grateful for
It is surprising how even a small awakening of gratitude makes one feel happier. Make a list of the top five things that makes you realize how lucky you are. Post the list on your fridge. Preempt any chance of feeling sorry for yourself or sad by making a plan that lifts your spirit.
Do write down what you want
If you want a great relationship, make a list of important traits that you want your significant other to have. Put your pencil where your mouth is and create as clear a picture as possible of what you want.
Do put yourself first
You are a whole and amazing person with or without a boyfriend or girlfriend. When you realize and appreciate this, you will not only feel better, but be more likely to attract great love into your life. You come first, and in order for you to realize this, you have to think about your physical and mental health as more important than anyone or anything else. You have to be able to be happy and healthy by yourself before you can be happy and healthy with someone else.
Do send yourself something special
If you really love flowers, send them to yourself! Why not? Or, agree to exchange flowers with a friend. Treat yourself to something special that will make you feel better about yourself. What is the harm? Valentine’s Day is about feeling special and who cares how it happens.
Do hang out with your close single friends
Believe it or not, other people are single on Valentine's Day too. And more than likely, they would like something to do as well. No one likes to sit at home, watching romantic comedies on TV by themselves. So, why not rent a couple of movies, buy some chocolate, ice cream, and popcorn and hang out with your friends this Valentine's Day? This can be a great way for you and your friends to enjoy some quality time together and make each other happy in the process.
Do not forget how amazing you are
If you think for a second that calling yourself ugly or unworthy is the right thing to do, you are crazy. Studies show you can affect your body's chemistry on a molecular level by how you think about yourself. Start by picking out a special outfit for yourself. Hang a sign or put cards up around your home that says phrases like, “You are beautiful and you rock.”
Do not forget about karma
You aren't the only person coping with being single on Valentine's Day, so why not find some others who are struggling as well and do something different? Perform random acts of kindness by giving out Valentine's Day cards to complete strangers or volunteering at a local shelter and hand the cards out. Bringing happiness and joy to other people will bring the same to you.
Do not compare yourself to anyone else
You never know when your time will come. You might end up in the happiest relationship you know down the line and end up living a more exciting life because of it. Maybe you are actually completely happy being single. Our friends tend to want for us what they have, whether they are happy or not. Focus on yourself and what makes you happy, and don’t judge yourself based on others.
Do not forget the people who love you
Valentine’s Day is about being loved. Maybe you have a relationship but at the very least you probably have great family, friends, and co-workers who love and support you. Remember those people and focus on the love they provide. Buy them gifts, call them, and let them know that you love them as well.
Do not sit at home and sulk
There is nothing worse than sitting at home and sulking on Valentine's Day all by yourself. As mentioned above, call up some of your close single friends and watch a couple of movies together. If you can't find anybody to hang out with, then go see a movie or go to dinner by yourself. And there is nothing wrong with going to dinner by yourself. Bring a good book that you have been wanting to finish, and enjoy every bite of your meal uninterrupted and completely satisfied by every bite you take. But always remember, it's OK to be happy for yourself.
Summary
This Valentine’s Day, focus on what makes you happy and all the amazing things you have in your life. This subtle tweak in the way you think will certainly make your Valentine’s Day better, but also just might make you more open to love in the future.
