Satisfy her and have better sex by reducing premature ejaculation
Who orgasms first? You or her? In a perfect world, sex sessions would end with simultaneous orgasms. In reality, men and women orgasm at very different times. On average, it takes women 10-20 minutes to orgasm during intercourse, and men 7-14 minutes to orgasm overall, but only 2-3 minutes to orgasm during intercourse (Brown University).
While he thinks, “please, let me get the next seven minutes without ejaculating,” she thinks, “Please, just this once let me have an orgasm during sex.” Premature ejaculation is defined as sex that lasts less than three minutes. But really it should be defined as sex that doesn’t last as long as both partner’s want and need to reach climax. So how can guys last longer during sex? Here is some advice.
Do
- pregame
- kegel exercises
- change up positions
- try a mild desensitizing spray
Don't
- get on antidepressants
- rely on the stop-and-start method
- think about boring or gross things
- forget to slow down
Do pregame
Just like stretching before exercise, you should masturbate before having sex. Before your date arrives, masturbate to calm your nerves and prepare for sex. You’ll be less likely to get overexcited if you’ve orgasmed in the recent past.
Do kegel exercises
Kegel exercises strengthen your PC muscles, commonly known as your pee-stopping muscles. Take a few minutes to tense and relax these muscles everyday. Building up your PC muscles can actually increase your stamina during sex. There are free and paid for apps that can help you remember and strengthen your muscles. Check online or make a calendar that you can stick to your workout regularly.
Do change up positions
Some positions are easy to orgasm in. If you’re worried about premature ejaculation, have her jump on top and lead the motions. If you’re feeling like you’re about to orgasm, change up positions. The second it takes to switch positions will give you time to relax, and changing positions will offer different stimulation.
Do try a mild desensitizing spray
A mild desensitizing spray will allow you to have sex whatever way you want it. Promescent is the only FDA approved desensitizing spray with virtually no side effects. Unlike other desensitizing products, Promescent is a spray that quickly absorbs so it will not transfer to your partner. With two quick sprays of Promescent, you can get control of your sex life and last long enough to give her an orgasm. The best part—she won’t even know you’re using it.
Do not get on antidepressants
Many doctors prescribe selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), a type of antidepressants, to patients that suffer from premature ejaculation. Getting on antidepressants will help premature ejaculation, but they come with a lot unwanted side effects, including, but not limited to: nausea, drowsiness, lack of sexual desire, and dizziness. Unless you actually need to be treated for depression, stay away from antidepressants.
Do not rely on the stop-and-start method
The stop-and-start, often referred to as edging, is a method to prevent premature ejaculation where men stop having sex right before they are about to orgasm. While this practice is fine to do during masturbation and can lead to stronger orgasms for men, it is extremely sexually frustrating for women during sex. Most women would prefer for their partner to premature ejaculate then to have him continuously stop and start sex.
Do not think about boring or gross things
Yes, many men think about baseball or their great-aunt naked not to orgasm during sex. Even if this method is effective for you, wouldn’t you rather think about the beautiful woman you are sleeping with? When you focus too much on your performance, you can’t concentrate on pleasuring her. It doesn’t matter how long you last if you can’t give her the attention and pleasure she needs to orgasm.
Do not forget to slow down
Slow down your movements and focus your energy on stimulating her clitoris, instead of over-stimulating your penis. Not only will slowing down your motions help you last longer, but it will also help her orgasm. Women usually prefer a variation of slow sex and fast-paced sex.
Summary
Men can help women achieve more orgasms if they change the way they have sex. Instead of mounting her in missionary position, slow down your movements and focus on what will pleasure her the most. Also, try using Promescent, a mild desensitizing spray, to get out of your head and into the incredible sex you’re having. Perhaps you’ll even have simultaneous orgasms.
